JANUARY 27, 2025
Weddings are full of traditions, but not every custom needs to be part of your big day.
Modern couples are embracing personal touches and letting go of elements that don’t resonate with them. Here are 14 wedding traditions and expectations you can skip—or rethink—to make your celebration uniquely yours.
WORDS BY THE BRIDAL JOURNEY

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The bouquet toss – often feels outdated, and many brides prefer to keep their flowers as a keepsake. Alternatively, you can gift your bouquet to someone special or skip this tradition altogether. The First Dance – Not everyone loves the idea of dancing in front of a crowd. If the first dance doesn’t appeal to you, consider skipping it and using that time to mingle with your guests or share a private moment with your partner. The Bridal Party – A traditional bridal party can add unnecessary stress and expenses. Instead, some couples forgo bridesmaids and groomsmen, focusing on spending time with loved ones informally before the ceremony. Extravagant Weddings – Bigger isn’t always better. Simple, intimate weddings can be just as memorable and meaningful. By scaling back on decor, food, and extras, couples can focus on celebrating their love rather than putting on a show.
“Wishing Wells aren’t for everyone. If you’ve already built a home together, consider skipping the cash gift option for a small registry with meaningful items or ask guests to donate to a charity in your name.”
Printed Programs – Programs are often left behind or discarded after the ceremony. Instead, opt for signage or a wedding coordinator to guide guests. It’s an eco-friendly and cost-effective choice. Last-Minute DIY Projects – Last-minute crafting can add unnecessary stress. Focus on completing DIY projects well in advance and let go of non-essential items. Simplifying your to-do list ensures a more relaxed lead-up to your wedding day. Traditional Favors – Traditional favours often end up forgotten or unused. Edible options like cookies or chocolates are a practical alternative, or you can donate to a charity for your guests as a meaningful gesture.

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Alex Cooper & Matt Kaplan’s 2024 Nuptials
“Overly Posed Photography – Photos should reflect the emotions of your day and not feel like a staged photo shoot. Trust your photographer to capture candid moments and avoid spending too much time on orchestrated setups.”
Full-Length Wedding Videos – A highlight reel showcasing your day’s key moments can be more meaningful and engaging than a lengthy, unedited video. It’s easier to rewatch and share with loved ones. Traditional Guest Books – Guest books often go unused after the wedding. Consider alternatives like a signed piece of art, a custom quilt, or a decorative item for your home that doubles as a keepsake. Mindlessly Following Traditions – Traditions like cake cutting, garter tosses, or formal dances aren’t mandatory. Only include customs that feel significant to you and your partner, and don’t hesitate to create your own.

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The “Bride’s Day” Narrative – Weddings are about celebrating a partnership, not just one individual. Sharing responsibilities and decision-making ensures your day reflects both of you equally. Pleasing Everyone Else – Your wedding should reflect your vision, not others’ expectations. Let go of external pressures and focus on creating a day that feels authentic to you and your partner.