Writing your own ceremony vows? Read these tips first. .

Writing your own ceremony vows? Read these tips first. .

Writing your own ceremony vows? read these tips first. .

Ceremony and Vows

Legal Requirements

  • Getting your license

You don’t have to include all these requirements but this is the basic wedding structure to add to or remove parts if need be:

  • Opening/welcome
  • Expression of intent: this is generally the part where couples say “I do”.
  • Readings, hymns and prayers: this is a great to honour people or cultural history.
  • Address or Sermon: the officiant will speak a bit about marriage or personal relationship.
  • Vows: these may be traditional or something you write yourself.
  • Ring ceremony: the rings are exchanged with ring vows.
  • Pronouncement: this is where the officiant announces you to the crowd.
  • The kiss

Secular wedding vows:

“Anna, I knew from the very moment I laid eyes on you that you were my forever. Someway, somehow, I was determined to make you mine. And from this day forward my heart is entirely yours….

As we continue to grow in our lives together, I promise to give you all of my words when needed, and to share in the silence when they are not, to pick you up if you are down, to love you unconditionally, to lay my bare skin on you when needed most, to care for you and our families for as long as we live, to adventure with you always, to say I love you before falling asleep each night, to be the best mom I can be as we grow a family together, and to always know in the deepest part of my soul, that when challenges arise we will always find our way back to one another.

Anna, you are my everything and this is my promise to you.” 

Paige : I vow to help you love life, to always hold you with tenderness and to have the patience that love demands, to speak when words are needed and to share the silence when they are not, to agree to disagree on red velvet cake, and to live within the warmth of your heart and always call it home.

Leo : I vow to fiercely love you in all your forms, now and forever. I promise to never forget that this is a once in a lifetime love. And to always know in the deepest part of my soul that no matter what challenges might carry us apart, we will always find our way back to each other. – The Vow

Ceremony and Vows

Start by addressing your partner by name. Add a compliment and follow by saying how this all makes you feel. 

  • (Partners Name) I stand here, today, a little nervous and very excited.
  • (Partners Name) who would have thought when we met that we would be standing here today?
  • (Partners Name) words cannot describe all the emotions I’m feeling right now.  I am the luckiest man in the world to be standing here with you today.
  • (Partners Name) you look absolutely beautiful,  and I can’t believe the day I get to marry my best friend has finally arrived.


The next bit is optional and if you want your vows shorter, cut it out!  Talk about how you felt when you met them, what captivated you, and how have they changed your life. 

  • From the moment our paths crossed, you’ve surprised me, distracted me, captivated me, and challenged me in ways I never knew possible.
  • Before I knew you, I had no idea what love really was.
  • I’ve fallen in love with you again and again, and I still can’t believe that, today, I get to marry you. I am clearly marrying up.
  • We have been through so much together, not all of it easy, but together, we have made it through all that life has thrown at us.

What do you want to promise to your partner? You can interchange the words, “promise”, “vow”, and “I will”, so it  doesn’t all sound the same.  Be honest and upfront. Choose 4-6 things you vow. 

  • I will communicate my needs and feelings in a way you can understand.
  • I will support and protect your freedom, because although our lives are intertwined, your choices are still yours, alone, and I will continue to seek a deep understanding of your wishes, your desires, your fears, and your dreams.
  • I vow to respect, admire and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you wish to become, and to do my best to meet your needs, not out of obligation, but because it delights me to see you happy.
  • I promise to work together to keep our lives exciting, adventurous, and full of passion, persevering when times get tough, knowing that any challenges we face, we will conquer together.
  • I promise to take care of myself, physically, emotionally, and spiritually, so that I can remain healthy and grow old by your side.
  • I will always remind you how awesome you are, inside and out, at least once a day, especially when you are not believing it for yourself.
  • I will be open and honest with you in all things.
  • I vow to be there for you, when you need me, and to nurture your goals and ambitions, supporting you through misfortune and celebrating with you in triumph.
  • I vow to love you (or honor you or make you laugh)
  • Cook you dinner, or other fun, less serious things that are specific to your relationship.

State what  you know about your relationship

  • No matter what life throws our way or how much time has passed, I know our love will never fade, and we will continue to grow side by side.
  • I believe in the truth of what we are.
  • Whatever life throws our way, we will accomplish together.
  • I know that year after year and wrinkle after wrinkle, our love will just become stronger.
  • I know life will not always be easy, but together, we can make the difficult times a lot more fun.

Choose a closing statement 

  • This is my promise, now and forever.
  • This is my sacred vow.
  • I will love you from this moment until my last.
  • My love for you will never fade.
  • Loving you is the best thing that ever happened to me, and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.
  • You have my heart and my soul, forever.
  • My heart belongs to you, now and forever.
  • Words do not describe how I feel, so I will simply say, I love you – always have and always will.

Tips from our readers:

‘I kinda did a bullet point thing first and then took what I thought was most important (or funny) and made it into sentences.’

‘We did ours and we used our personal words, phrases. Live, Laugh, Love is kinda our theme. And we used those words.’

‘I just chose a ‘theme/metaphor’ that describes our relationship and went for it. Rather than writing the vows in one sitting I kept adding notes on my phone, then sorted them in a logical order and added the transition/ connecting sentences. I capped mine at 3/4 of a page. I know FS will be suuper short and to the point (I’m more of a story teller), but our officiant will look over both to help us make them more aligned without seeing the other’s vows’

‘If you want to keep it a secret from each other I would recommend deciding on a format together! We did a paragraph on a little anecdote of our relationship and why we loved the other one, and then 4 vows to each other, although mine had a.few vows rolled into one’


Examples to get you started:

The traditional 
I, (name), take you (name), to be my lawfully wedded husband/wife,
to have and to hold, from this day forward.
I will always stand beside you, 
for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer,
in sickness and in health, for the rest of my life.


Partner 1 to Partner 2: 
To say I love you is not enough. 
There are no words to convey
the love I have for you,
how your smile touches my heart and soul,
how excited I am when I see you,
how comfortable I am with you and how silly we can be,
and how you helped me to be the woman/man that I always knew I could be.
I am proud to take you as my husband/wife, to give myself to you as your wife/husband,
your best friend, your love,
your number one fan, and your lifelong partner,
To share my life with you, to not only dream with you, but make those dreams reality.
I promise to be by your side always. I promise to respect you as an individual,
and grow as a person in partnership with you.
I promise to love you with all I have to give and all I feel inside, 
completely and forever, for our shared adventure in life, for infinity.

Partner 1 to Partner 2: 
To say I love you is not enough. 
There are no words to convey
how I feel in the morning when I wake up next to you
how I feel when I hear your voice
the excitement I feel when I know I’m going to see you
the happiness and love in my heart when we have time together.
I am proud to take you as my wife/husband, to give myself to you as your husband/wife,
your devoted partner, your love,
your companion, your best friend,
and the person who will love you for the rest of your life; 
to share the rest of life’s journey with you. 
I promise to respect you, care for you, shelter you, and love you,
for our shared adventure in life, for infinity. 

You don’t have to be too serious- The Wedding Singer

I wanna make you smile whenever you’re sad

Carry you around when your arthritis is bad

All I wanna do is grow old with you.

I’ll get your medicine when your tummy aches

build you a fire if the furnace breaks

Oh it could be so nice, growin old with you.

I’ll miss you, kiss you, give you my coat when you are cold.

Need you, feed you, I’ll even let you hold the remote control.

So let me do the dishes in the kitchen sink

Put you to bed when you’ve had too much to drink.

Oh I could be the man (or woman) to grow old with you

I wanna grow old with you.

List the promises you are making
I promise to be your true love, companion, and friend,
Your partner in parenthood,
Your ally in conflict,
Your greatest fan and your toughest adversary.
Your comrade in adventure,
Your student and your teacher,
Your consolation in disappointment, and 
Your accomplice in mischief.
I will be your strength when you need support and 
Will look to you for help when I am in need.
And most of all, I will love you for the rest of my life.


Mix Traditional with Personal

I wish to join my life with yours;
To stand by your side and sleep in your arms;
To be joy in your heart and food to your soul;
To work as partners and live as a family.
While we grow old together,
I vow to love, honor, and cherish you;
To hold you close to my heart
But not bind you to my will.
I will be with you, through struggles and pleasures, joys and sorrow.
I will stand beside you, for better for worse, for all the days of my life.

Additional Add Ons

“I promise to engage as an equal partner in every aspect of the life we are creating together, to share joys, sorrows, victories and the hard work that building a life together requires.” 

“I vow to honor our relationship as a haven of acceptance and belonging for you and for others.” 

“I vow to bring my strongest self to this relationship, to act with integrity, honesty, and fearless authenticity.” 

“I promise to travel to the edge with you, to seek a life that is thrilling, and to cherish the excitement of the unknown in adventures both near and far.” 

“I vow to reveal myself fully to you, to share an unfiltered journey of love and connection.” 

“I promise to be a guardian of your independent spirit, to encourage your freedom, and to offer spaciousness to your soul.” 

“I promise to pay loving attention to you and the life we are creating, to act with compassion and to live in a way that honors the interconnection of all beings.” 




A Romantic Autumn Wedding in Perth

A Romantic Autumn Wedding in Perth

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A romantic Autumn wedding in Perth. 


& Stephen 

How did the two of you meet? 

Stephen and I first met each other in June 2009 at a London bar during my travels through Europe. While in the same vicinity, Stephen and were I introduced to one another and found common ground straight away. We exchanged Facebook contact details but nothing romantically happened at the time as I was travelling. 3 years later, Stephen and I met up again in Sydney. We hit it off like a house on fire and I planned to make a trip to London later that year to see him again and it was at this point our relationship blossomed. We did long distance for nearly a year arranging to see each other every 3 months which included him flying to from London to Perth to meet my family. Once my UK visa was granted, I packed up my life in Perth, Australia and moved over to London to live with Stephen and start the next chapter of our lives together. 6 years later the rest is history and on Friday 5th April 2019 we became husband and wife.

What was the proposal like?

Stephen proposed to me while holidaying in Florence, Italy. We started the day by driving around Tuscany to various wineries and the last winery we visited is located on top of a mountain with an ancient castle overlooking the countryside surrounded by green vineyards and olive groves called Castello Di Meleto. Upon arrival, we were given a tour around the castle and concluding the visit with some wine tasting at the end. It was approaching sunset at this point and the winery was just about to close so Stephen asked one of the staff members to re-open the gates so he could propose. Meanwhile I was completely oblivious at this point admiring the view and taking it all in. As it was just Stephen and I on the grounds overlooking the view, I turned around and there he was… on one knee and asked me to marry him. I was in complete and utter shock and crying with excitement. It was an incredibly special moment; something like out of a fairy-tale.


What advice would you give to other couples leading up to their big day?

I would say to make sure you and your partner have time to yourselves on the day; just the two of you to take it all in – you are high on emotions throughout the day so it’s also important to stop and take some time to watch everything you have planned for unfold.

Stephen and I were lucky to have some time to ourselves on our special day. We had a separate car from the bridal party that took us from the church to the venue and in that time, we were able to talk about the lead up of the morning, the ceremony and becoming husband and wife. It’s so important to have that time together.

Another piece of advice is to be selfish with your time on the day. This will allow you to speak to all your guests yet still manage to enjoy yourselves. 

What was the most expensive thing other than the venue that you had to pay for? 

Our wedding photographer, however we justified it by the fact he gave us memories that will last a lifetime and photos are forever. Both James and Liv captured our day so perfectly.



How’d you go about sticking to a budget?

Once we set a date, I created a wedding budget excel spreadsheet with a list of vendors we wanted to use and from there I reached out to the appropriate vendors to request quotes. We definitely went over budget but that was excepted. It’s so easy to get carried away with the spending but on the day you really don’t sweat the small stuff, the little details don’t matter.

Also we were quite strict with our guest list and we wanted to invite only our nearest and dearest. We always said we wanted our day to be intimate so that it gave us time to speak to all our guests yet still manage to have enjoy ourselves. We also decided last minute to surprise our guests with a saxophonist in the evening once the dance floor began and it was one of the highlights of the night so was that definitely worth the money.

You’re engaged! Now what? How did you go about planning the big day? Budget? First steps to take…

I did all the planning myself and Stephen got involved in the process also which it more enjoyable. When we got engaged we wanted to make sure we gave ourselves enough time to plan for the wedding without being overwhelmed or stressed. Plus I wanted to enjoy the time being engaged.

We gave ourselves around 18 months to plan for our wedding. Once we decided on a venue and set a date the fun planning began. We both agreed to get married in the month of April given it’s off peak season which worked well for our international guests who were travelling and is apparently the best season for sunsets.

I was lucky to know on what vendors to reach out – this was either though recommendations or from Instagram. Spending the last year with liaising with our vendors made the wedding planning an absolute breeze. We enjoyed every single minute of it and never once felt overwhelmed or stressed which is surprising seeing as I planned the wedding all the way from London! It also helped that I had the most wonderful bridesmaid who always offered to help out where possible.

“I had a number of facials 3 months prior to the wedding and had purchased a skincare range that suited my skin type. In addition, I cut out alcohol completely for 2 months prior to the wedding as I wanted my skin and body to feel the best it could be.” 

What was your beauty and fitness prep leading up to the wedding?

Stephen and I wanted to make sure we looked and felt the best version of ourselves. We would often attend Barry’s Bootcamp classes together in London. We would try do a class around 3 times a week.

I had a number of facials 3 months prior to the wedding and had purchased a skincare range that suited my skin type. In addition, I cut out alcohol completely for 2 months prior to the wedding as I wanted my skin and body to feel the best it could be.

Ceremony song?

Canon – Pachelbel

First Dance? 

Green Eyes by Coldplay


Ceremony: Saint Mary’s Cathedral, Perth

Reception: Royal Freshwater Bay Yacht Club 

Cake: Sukar

Photographer / Videographer: James Simmons and The Wedding Tape was our videographer was Wedding Tape.

Florals: Addison & Bloom 

Furniture hire: Hire Society and Hearts and Strings

Priest: Fr. Stephen Gorddard

Caterer: Royal Freshwater Bay Yacht Club, Peppermint Grove 

Dress: Berta

Retailer: The Wedding Club in London 

Shoes: Bella Belle Shoes

Bridesmaid dresses: Bec + Bridge 

Groom/groomsmen: Gieves & Hawkes 

Accessories: CZ by Kenneth Jay Lane 

Rings: Jacque Fine Jewellery & Michael Arthur Diamonds 

Hair & Makeup: Jessica Twamley 

Music: Aaron Richards from A Class DJ Services 

Saxophonist: Simoné Monaco 

A luxurious beachfront wedding in Byron Bay

A luxurious beachfront wedding in Byron Bay

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A luxurious beachfront wedding in Byron Bay


& Nic

What advice would you give to other couples leading up to their big day?

Nic and I met about 15 years ago in NYC when we were both living there.  We had been friends for ages and fell in love many years later when Nic was passing through NY after he had already moved back to Sydney. From that weekend on we were inseparable. Nic moved back to NY a month later. When Nic proposed we were living in Sydney and just visiting NY for the weekend. He proposed after dinner in corner booth at Minetta Tavern. One of our favourite restaurants in Manhattan. It was perfect and very us. Good lighting, Steak and Champagne.

Be kind to each other. At the end of the day it is about the two of you. Try to remember that going into every conversation about the wedding.  It should be fun.    

What was the most expensive thing other than the venue that you had to pay for? 

The dress and my accessories of course. Things seem to easily spiral out of control.    


How’d you go about sticking to a budget?

Well… we started with a budget. Then doubled it. Like I said, things spiral!

You’re engaged! Now what? How did you go about planning the big day? Budget? First steps to take…

First steps were locking down Rae’s at Wategos. Watego’s beach is such a special place for us. I’m originally from Chicago and Nic took me to Byron when we first started dating. We were travelling back from NY and it was here I fell in love with Australia and we envisioned our life together by the water in Australia. we loved Rae’s because we could have it all to ourselves for the weekend and also have our family stay with us. It’s a very special, private place.  

“Well, we started with a budget. Then doubled it. Like I said, things spiral!”


What was your beauty and fitness prep leading up to the wedding?

I honestly didn’t do anything different until a month before the wedding. I probably should have thought about it more, haha. But, I really cut carbs and continued practicing yoga, running and swimming. I’ve always been active so I didn’t feel the need to go crazy. 

Ceremony song?

Luke Morris – Mexico

First Dance? 

was suppose to be: Real Hero – College and Electric Youth. Disaster struck and the sound system wasn’t working – we hopped on the party bus and ended up dancing in a mosh pit at The Beach Hotel for our first dance. Jumping in the air with all our friends. It couldn’t have been planned, perfection. 


Ceremony: Our best friend Katie Olsen, who introduced us in NYC, UN- Officiated the ceremony on the steps at dusk at Rae’s. We were married in private with our immediate family the morning of 3.3.18 in our suite by Cara Gallagher from Modern Love.

Reception: Rae’s and after party at the Beach Hotel

Wedding Planner (if any): none

Cake: Coconut Cake by Rebellyous Cake Co

Photographer / Videographer: Lucas and Co Photography

Flowers: Bower Botanicals (florals) & The Wedding Shed (furniture)

Celebrant: Modern Love Celebrant – Cara Gallagher 

Caterer: Rae’s

Dress: Vera Wang 

Shoes: Prada

Accessories: Vintage Necklace & earrings. Vintage Chanel Jacket

Rings: Vintage 

Hair & Makeup: The Future Mrs. – Ava Belle

Music: Luke Morris

Saving yourself a fortune by buying your own booze

Saving yourself a fortune by buying your own booze


When you’re planning out your wedding reception, one of the trickiest things you’ll need to plan is how much alcohol to have. Alcohol for your wedding will depend on how many guests you plan to have, how much these guests tend to drink, what type of wedding environment you’re aiming for and your expected budget.  

Many couples opt for an open bar, where guests have access to unlimited drinks throughout the entire reception. While this is certainly the most gracious approach, it’s also the most expensive and could end up costing as much as 10 to 20 percent of your total budget. An alternative is the “limited,” or “soft,” bar, where you offer a careful selection of drinks (say, wine, beer and vodka cocktails) at the bar during specific times (throughout the cocktail hour and right after dinner), then have waiters serve wine or beer during the meal.

Calculating the amount of alcohol you need at a wedding is a necessary part of wedding planning. It’s also kind of nerve-wracking. Our worst nightmares involve an empty bar.

OK. So here’s the most BASIC wedding alcohol calculator information you need to know, based on the number of guests you’re having.



How much alcohol should you buy?

The general rule is that you should allow for one drink per person per hour.

How many servings can you get per bottle?

Wine: 4 glasses per 750ml

Liquour: 18 servings per 750ml bottle

Beer Kg: 165 servings per full keg

Beer and wine ratios:

Beer and wine only: Beer 25% and wine 25%

Full bar:

Liquor  30%, Beer 20% and wine 50%


Example: 100 Guests:

Beer and Wine:

112 bottles of wine

150 bottles of beer or 1kg

Modified full bar:

75 bottles of wine

10 bottles of liquor

120 bottles of  beer


If you are providing your own alcohol its important to check your caterer or venues liability insurance. Look at adding to your home insurance or contacting a company that specialises in insurance for particular events. Look into the liquor laws in your state or country. You want to be covered in case someone has an accident while driving home or Aunt Linda falls off the top stairs drunk.

Still confused? Watch this! or better yet check out the Dan Murphy’s wedding drink planner: here




Inside a modern farm wedding

Inside a modern farm wedding

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Inside a modern farm wedding


& Josh

What advice would you give to other couples leading up to their big day?

Try make as many decisions as you can as far out from the date as possible, and then back yourself. I found as it got closer anxiety and emotion kicked in and I begun second guessing myself and decisions were more difficult to make. 

Most importantly, prioritise each other. It’s so easy to get swept up in all of the planning, appointments and everyone else’s opinions and at the end of the day it’s about you and your partner. So have date nights, even if it’s just a Netflix date, and try to enjoy the process together. There are moments that are stressful like any big event, but it shouldn’t be a negative experience.

What was the most expensive thing other than the venue that you had to pay for? 

Our food & beverage….and then the gown. 


How’d you go about sticking to a budget? 

Josh is an accountant and I’m in PR, so we have very different takes on what sticking to a budget means! Together we set an overall budget and then as we received quotes from vendors, we would evaluate what was really important to us, and where we could save or go mid-tier. I think we balanced that really well together. However, if you included the cost of our recovery, then we did blow that budget just a little!! We had a two-stage recovery the day after the wedding – a relaxed BBQ lunch held at Calais Estate, then the party people moved onto this incredible property we had hired for the groomsmen, where we really let our hair down. I wouldn’t take that back for the world – it was SO much fun!

You’re engaged! Now what? How did you go about planning the big day? Budget? First steps to take…  I was pretty quick to start planning after we got engaged. I think we had locked in a wedding date and venue just two weeks from the proposal!! Which sounds crazy on reflection, but I had watched so many of my friends get engaged and then wait a couple of months before finding a venue, only to be disappointed that they had to push their weddings out by months due to lack of availability. 

Josh and I already knew we wanted to get married in the Hunter Valley, so after deciding on a shortlist of venues in the region and agreeing on a rough budget, we headed to the Hunter for site visits the weekend after Josh had proposed. We had also established a few non-negotiables on the venue early on; we wanted our ceremony, reception and accommodation within walking distance, and didn’t want to be dealing with a heap of external vendors. It also helped that it was love at first site when we arrived at our venue Circa1876, so the decision was very easy. 

What was your beauty and fitness prep leading up to the wedding?

I started using Rationale products about 2 years ago and it completely changed my skin. I stuck to my Rationale product regime, and 4 months out from the wedding introduced regular facial treatments at Clear Complexions which included a regime of Laser Genesis, Omnilux and Rationale Facials. 

For the bod, it was reformer Pilates at KX Mosman 3-4 times a week, cardio sessions at the gym or runs 1-2 times a week, and lots of walking every day. I have always been very active, but I really noticed a change in my body after sticking to consistent reformer over the last year. I also had an allergy test coincidentally just after getting engaged, and found out I am intolerant to yeast and dairy – so being conscious of that really helped me manage bloating and diet in general. 

‘I was pretty quick to start planning after we got engaged. I think we had locked in a wedding date and venue just two weeks from the proposal.’

Ceremony song? I’m With You, Vance Joy (sung by Duan and Only)

First dance song? Signed, Sealed, Delivered – Stevie Wonder

Regrets? No regrets!! If anything, I would have taken more time off just before the wedding to really get in the right zone. 

If you could tell me the following:

Ceremony: Grounds of Circa1876

Reception: Circa1876 restaurant 

Wedding Planner (if any): I planned the wedding with the assistance of my wedding coordinator, Cassie from Circa1876 

Cake: 3 tiers with 3 different flavors, chocolate, mud and vanilla, from the chefs at Circa1876

Photographer / Videographer: Ben Adams (Photographer), Brad Smith from GMTMT Films  (Videographer)

Flowers: Blooms on Darby 

Celebrant: Jessica Farahar from Married By Jess (@marriedbyjess) Who was also one of my bridesmaids!

Cater: The food was by Circa1876, an award-winning restaurant in the Hunter Valley

Dress: Inbal Dror, from Helen Rodrigues 

Shoes: Sophia Webster

Bridesmaids: All wore different Australian designers in shades of deep green including Albus Lumen, Camilla and Marc, Bec & Bridge and Shona Joy. 

Groom/groomsmen: Joe Black 

Accessories: Jennifer Behr hair pin, Tiffany & Co pearl studs, a delicate diamond necklace from my mum and dad, and my mother in law’s vintage two-string pearl bracelet as my “something borrowed”

Rings: Cerrone

Hair: Mia Hawkswell (@miamakeup) 

Makeup: Michael Brown (@mbrown_beauty) 

Music: Duan and Only – such an incredible acoustic act!

Everything You Need to Know About Fraxel Lasers

Everything You Need to Know About Fraxel Lasers

Everything You Need to Know About Fraxel Lasers

Imagine you could take all your skin concerns—hyperpigmentation, acne scars, dullness, fine lines—and peel them all away to reveal a new layer of glowy, healthy skin.

The photo above is a photo taken at Vic Dermal examining my skin close up. I have a few freckles, a few small broken capillaries and most obvious pigmentation concerns.

What it’s for: Sun spots, fine lines, and sagging skin, especially for brides over 30.

What to expect: Fraxel uses thousands of tiny lasers smaller than a hair follicle to stimulate collagen and replace damaged skin. It’s more powerful than some other types of lasers, so each session is a little more invasive. Expect to sit tight with numbing cream on your face before each session, and don’t start looking for results until a few weeks after your appointment. Most Fraxel lasers can take up to 3 months to take full effect.

What it costs: $1000 and up per session.

Imagine you could take all your skin concerns—hyperpigmentation, acne scars, dullness, fine lines—and peel them all away to reveal a new layer of glowy, healthy skin. Vic Dermal has got my skin to a neutral tone instead of being speckled (it almost looks like I have tinted moisturiser on 24/7 now). I wanted to get Fraxel at Vic Dermal to assist with my hyperpigmentation, sun damage, wrinkles, and acne scarring.

It can be intimidating to undergo a procedure like this so I am going to break down everything you need to know before trying Fraxel. If you follow me on Instagram, you know I got my first Fraxel treatment 1 week ago at Vic Dermal and have been getting a ton of questions about what it does, where I went, whether it hurts, what the recovery is like, and whether I’m happy with the results. I’m so excited to answer all those questions and share my before and after with you today!

Why is it different to using topical treatments? Because being able to go that deep allows you to really break up that scar tissue that’s clouding the textural difference, whereas a cream wouldn’t be able to.  Fraxel doesn’t stop ageing, but it slows it down by helping combat some of your earlier sun damage and encouraging cellular renewal at the deeper layers of your skin – layers that products just can’t get to. 

Firstlly, numbing cream was put on my face an hour before treatment. As it scans the skin it lays down little dots. It heats up these little dots of skin and leaves little bits in between.

It felt like someone rolling something on my face. It felt like a prickly heat and this part took 20 minutes. I was then given an icepack and could blow the hose with cold hair.

Directly after the treatment my skin felt hot and over the course of the next couple of days the pigmentation started to come through.

I don’t look like raw meat but I am going to be red, peeling, and scaley. I would suggest to get this done 6-12 months before your wedding. To avoid having to hide your super-sensitive, bright-red face (how could we ever forget Samantha at Carrie’s book party in Sex and the City?)

Day 2: The pigmentation has come through to the surface. My skin did feel like linen and you could see hash marks. I am making sure I use ample amounts of sun protection. I am also avoiding harsh products on my skin and ensuring I use a gentle cleanser and moisturiser twice a day.

Day 3-5: My skin was quite hard and flaking off. It was pretty hard to cover with makeup so I tried to let it breathe. As the skin goes dark which is also called ‘bronzing’ it flakes off to reveal new glowing skin. I am also avoiding picking at my skin which is extremely hard as it’ll only make me red and take longer to heal. I am reminding myself that It’ll peel when it’s ready.



Day 5-6: Skin looks completely different and the flaky/ dry cracked skin is nearly off.

Day 7 (1 week): My skin is so much more even and the pigmentation is nearly gone. It looks like I am wearing tinted moisturiser.

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I’ve noticed an improvement in lines and wrinkles.

My skin is renewing itself and that collagen remodelling has taken place in the DEEPER layers of the skin, the results will become clearer over time…because even though I see the Fraxel treatment on the outer skin layer, it actually increases the cellular renewal below the skin’s visible surface (which then eventually shows up as the skin renews itself).





Inside Nicole Trunfio’s California Coachella wedding

Inside Nicole Trunfio’s California Coachella wedding

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Inside Nicole Trunfio’s California Coachella wedding


& Gary Clark Jr

Three years ago in 2016 Perth born model, Nicole Trunfio tied the knot in a Coachella themed wedding in Palm Springs, California. 

When you meet and fall in love at Coachella, you make a point of saying your vows at the very place that brought you together after years–and an adorable son named Zion–together. Nicole tied the knot in a Steven Khalil gown. They said their vows last night at The Colony Palms Hotel in Palm Springs at music and fashion’s biggest festival just days after Gary’s concert at the venue.

For her wedding ceremony, Nicole wore a stunning silk Steven Khalil gown with a scalloped-edge veil with her brunette locks softly framing her face. The gown featured silver embroidery along the back and around the bust area, while the stunning A-line skirt cascaded into an elegant train. 

Nicole later changed in a ’70-s style lace Yolan Chris gown for the reception, while Gary wore a John Varvatos suit paired with his trademark fedora hat. 


Nicole told Vogue that when she found the dress by Steven Khalil that “ot was that ha-ha! moment that a lot of women speak about, completely different to anything I thought I would wear. I went to a few designers to custom make me dresses, but found myself with cold feet after knowing how often I change my taste and question my style decisions. So I waited. People thought I was crazy to wait so long.  Unexpectedly I found ‘the one’ in Sydney. After two long photoshoots, my friend Melanie Grant and I visited Steven Khalil’s studio, which he opened after-hours for us. As I walked in I eyed off a dress that ‘wasn’t me’, and then tried on a few others. Before leaving I just had this gut feeling to try on that first dress. We were all laughing at how much it just was not me. Even when I put it on, my audience was still making fun, but I saw something different. It was traditional, yet modern and unique in every way. Together with Steven we customised it, added and took away a lot and we gave it a cathedral- length veil. I felt slightly dolce Vita, slightly undone. 

“I always want my clients to feel like themselves in their wedding gown… just their best version. This is not the moment to try out the latest trend or to really push yourself way out of your comfort zone.” – Anita Patrickson

“When you are dressing a client for her wedding it’s quite different than when you approach a red carpet. I want my client to truly feel like themselves, to wear something they will still be in love with 30 years from now and at the same time, I want it to feel very elevated and chic. Nicole, being the beauty that she is, is so much fun to dress from a stylist’s point of view, but she also understands fashion knows herself and her body so well. I truly cannot imagine her wedding story without a single one of these looks.” – Anita Patrickson

The Brides Black Book:

Dress: Steven Khalil

Reception dress: Yolan Cris

Rings: Trunfio Universe 

Shoes: Sophia Webster

Hair: Cassie Harwood 

Make-up: Victoria Baron 

Fragrance: Cuban Tobacco candles by Lumira 

Groom’s attire: John Varvatos 

Bridesmaid’s outfits: Custom tailoring

Photographer: Kane Skennar 

Venue: Colony Palms Hotel, Palm Springs, California 

Cake: Over the Rainbow 

Music: Alice Smith & Citizen Cope

First dance: You Send Me by Sam Cooke

Flowers: Artisan Events 

7 Tips When Choosing A Wedding Cake With Expert Cake Baker Jasmine Rae

7 Tips When Choosing A Wedding Cake With Expert Cake Baker Jasmine Rae

Jasmine Rae Cakes featured above

7 Tips When Choosing A Wedding Cake With Expert Cake Baker Jasmine Rae

“Play is the free spirit of exploration- doing and being for its own pure joy.”    
-Stephen Nachmanovitch

Jasmine Rae was born sensitive and playful in San Francisco in 1981. After a formal art background, a mural-painting business, and a B.A. in Cognitive Science, she started my cake studio in 2006, then concurrently returned to school for a M.A. in Psychology. She states that studying phycology influences the creative process both in making cakes and working with real people. She states that ‘the cornerstone of my work is the natural process—relying on experienced skills to set up my materials and revel in their surprise; to surrender to the contortion of a rice paper petal as it dries; and constantly be responding to the cake as it forms. I hold you in mind, replaying the parts of myself that overlap with you, your vision, your celebration, until we have an outcome that is personal and authentic and that she ‘believes art should reveal the hand of the artist.’

Jasmine Shares her top tips when choosing a wedding cake. 

A couple should start to look for cakes and book it in. .  asap. For example: by January of 2019, I was 80% booked for the rest of 2019. But it depends wildly on your area, cake-maker, and time of year.

When selecting a particular cake. .  I focus less on “Style” and more on evoking a feeling. I want to hear about the couple’s vision for their wedding, the styles THEY think will be referring to, but I’m more interested in aligning the cake design with my sense of who the couple is, then incorporating stylistic details.


It isn’t necessary to book in a tasting. . but I do so love designing with, and in the presence of, my clients. Sometimes I never even get to meet my clients, so in those cases the designs are based purely on aesthetic and the ‘feel’ as interpreted by the planner/designer. I also love to watch people experience novel flavour combinations for the first time. Some couples care little about the taste of their cake. If the taste is really important to a client, they should make a point to do so. 

I am not an expert on the average cost of a wedding cake. .  but apparently, it’s pretty high in the San Francisco Bay Area. I don’t think there’s a predetermined amount that is right for every couple. This year, I have a couple with a very small budget, who is getting married at a small restaurant, but splurging on cake and flowers. For them, that’s what matters. And I’ve had couples who are spending 6-7 figures on their wedding, barely willing to meet my minimum, because the cake just doesn’t matter enough to them.

Having a ‘mini cake’ . . . depends on each couples’ interests, but I know that sometimes a couple may just want a little jewel of a cake, or a veritable art piece, but can’t justify or aren’t interested in something larger. For some, it’s about the rejection of being a princess, or perceived as ostentatious, so they want the cake to be more modest, still yet refined. For some, they’re more interested in using the cake as a symbol of their privacy or intimacy, so the cake may be just for them or their family. 


When organising the logistics of organising a wedding cake . . . I always encourage delivery. My team and I are professionals and there’s so much more that goes into the delivery process, from start to finish, than industry outsiders realise! I’ve sadly seen cakes ruined by mishandling, however well-intentioned. It’s also extremely stressful for the guest who takes on the job. I don’t refuse it as an option, and I do my best to insure their success by designing a sturdy cake and packing it well, but I definitely recommend sporting for the professional delivery and saving yourself the stress. 

I don’t find that cakes trend or are more popular at any certain time and. . .I hope cakes are considered more personal or artistic. However, an easier way to answer might be to speak to some popular techniques. Obviously, I see cakes derived from my own techniques a lot (such as rough stone, rice paper flowers, and torn paper ruffles, because I get tagged in the photos–ha!), but I can also say that I’m generally seeing more textural finishes on cakes, moving away from the smooth clean fondant of yesterday. Painterly buttercream finishes are in, cakes with sharp edges that simultaneously look more roughly handled, palette-knife techniques, with chaotic details. It’s common for cake-makers to be allowed to copy artists from other media–though I don’t generally agree with the practice, I’m happy to see people referring to more esoteric and contemporary artists…as long as they’re credited 🙂



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